A young Muslim was angered by a co-worker’s apparent lack of sharing, gratitude, and proper manners. You see, during lunch break, a group of youth were sitting when one of the youth offered some of their food to another. When one of the others asked if they could also have some, they were told ‘no.’ This really angered the youth and, out of anger, they exclaimed: “I treat you to all sorts of stuff, you won’t even share a morsel with me?”
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This incident brought a few lessons to mind – insha’Allah ones I am still learning myself so, the lessons here are reminders for myself first-and-foremost, while also blessing and an opportunity to share with you all, alhamdulillah.
First, the proper etiquette of giving anything is to give for the pleasure of Allah Ta’aala – be it something material, or prayers on behalf of someone, or a smile, love, care, etc. Just because we’ve been blessed with something or the ability to give, does not mean we are the true owners of what it is we are giving, or that we are even the ones who are ‘giving’ in the first place; we’ve been blessed with something that wasn’t ‘ours’ to begin with so when the blessing is shared, it is done so for His pleasure and by Him alone. Keeping this in mind could save us a lot of heartache insha’Allah.
Next, bearing in mind that nothing is ours to begin with, we ask the one who gives – Allah Ta’aala alone. If we can break the habit of asking creation for things and only ask Allah Ta’aala, again, we will have been saved from a lot of heartache insha’Allah. Allah Ta’aala alone gives to whom He wills, holds from whom He wills, and takes from whom He wills.
Finally, another Islamic etiquette related to this incident is that of accepting gifts. If we are given something, we should accept it (so long as it is something permissible) for the sake of Allah Ta’aala again, bearing in mind that He is the one gifting us. With this comes the giving of thanks to Allah Ta’aala – gratitude – as well as a prayer for the one who He has made a means of sharing with us. Alhamdulillah for blessings big and small, known and unknown, clear and unclear.
Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah.